My husband and I were playing around with one of his favorite toys (to use on me!). This particular situation, though, was a bit different. The lights in the room were too bright, the dogs were there, and we were sorta kinda experimenting with documenting our own love making (more on that another time).
This blue toy is his favorite because while he uses the toy on me, I engage in (and really love giving!) fellatio on him. The whole thing just works together, and builds up to something amazing!
On this night, I was close to climax about three times, but because I was so uncomfortable with the bright light, how I was dressed, and the fact that it was being documented(!), I couldn’t focus on not focusing on anything else but enjoying myself and my husband.
Along the same lines, this tidbit comes to mind, from another one of favorite books by Louann Brizendine, M.D. We featured part of it as an orgasm quote some time back. This expands on that.
It’s a delicate system, but the connection to the brain is about as direct as it gets. Nerves in the tip of the clitoris communicate straight to the sexual pleasure center of the female brain. When those nerves are stimulated, they boost electrochemical activity until it hits a threshold, triggers a burst of impulses, and releases bonding, feel-good neurochemicals such as dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphines. Ah, climax
If the stimulation of the clitoris is cut off too soon, if the nerves aren’t sensitive enough, or if fear, stress, or guilt interfere with stimulation, the clitoris is stopped dead in its tracks.
—Dr. Louann Brizendine, The Female Brain.
So, in regards to the brain and orgasms, please make sure you are totally comfortable, and just focus on you and your partner’s enjoyment! Orgasms are delicious. No need to be psyching yourself out of one!